Character in essence and fundamental nature, in type of behavior, in consciousness, and in will, as it is in God, is unchangeable and perfect; immutable. Eternal God is above all and creator of all, and consistent. Science, the knowledge of observable creation facts and its cause, is a systematic arrangement of known facts for human understanding of what God has put in place and upholds in design perfection. Science is subject to change as unseen existing facts enlighten the mind. Mankind manifests complex, changeable, error prone behaviors always subject to fact which, along with will, motivates character adjustment and direction correction. Binding immutability of God is appropriately His character.

In God’s faithfulness the necessary part which makes people human and not animal, is not only recognized, but honored; non-interference with willful people yet continually encouraging actions beyond body demanding instincts. The promised love, wisdom, and quiet confident strength shown in Jesus are God’s intent for people as reasoned and relational in responsive Love; character. Decisively adopting and accepting God’s character, each person willingly begins to mature in the eternal fundamental nature and essence of Heaven toward character calmness.

God’s chosen place of abode for His Spirit is in humanity and together with others is a new corporate body of Christ on earth. Jesus lived God’s Spirit while here on earth, but ascended to complete preparation for people as sanctuary for His Spirit’s dwelling. This inconceivable Spiritual mystery, preceded by Old Testament foreshadowing and prophesying Jesus’ birth, His death, resurrection, and ascension, can only be grasped with insight (revelation) stimulated by the comforting indwelling perfect (Holy) Spirit.

Following 10 days of unceasing anticipatory prayer, Heavenly Life (God’s perfect Spirit–the Holy Spirit) encompassed the lives of ordinary people. Experiencing loss of the comforting person, followed for three years, folks gathered expecting to receive a new unknown comfort, a new promised comforter–a new insight into God’s nature. A new enlivening Spirit of Love, Wisdom, and quiet comforting strength descended, manifesting in a new confident character changing freedom.

Many will think of Heaven as a place where God is; as a place of entitlement with hope of going there when death happens. Scripture outlines Heaven as a life which lasts forever and of God’s closeness now; the relational experience for every day, hour and minute. Jesus said the ‘relational’ Kingdom is at hand, now as well as future. Feeding and clothing the widows and orphans is now. Only out of the gift of God’s Spirit, can the true character of God be manifested here on earth; God’s eternal will.

People are happy to pray “thy Kingdom come on earth” without the immanence realization of this daily prayer; thy Kingdom comes on earth “as it is in Heaven” with a human element; willingness. From ones relationship with Father God, to relationship with another, God’s character appears on earth. Spiritually quickened Word seeds, stored in each heart, responsively returns to memory to plant in the receptiveness of another. The sprouting ‘true’ human loving maturity in the world is the place Jesus promised to prepare for each person’s unique growth.

From Father God’s Holiest presence, beyond the veil of fleshly desires, Christ Jesus sends the Spirit of God into spiritually bankrupt (fallen) humanity to transform the heart into a holy sanctuary. Fellowship with Father God, in His Spirit, lights the maturing heart’s pathway to faithfully invest heart fellowship in others. Relationship with God and relationship with others successfully concludes in reconciliation; Heaven’s Joy and Peace experience.

Prayer: Father God I have accepted your Spirit Life into my spirit by believing and confessing that Jesus is the Christ. I now want to have my heart condition transformed by renewing my mind in your Word. I want to mature in the place where I live, to become more like Christ, consistent in word and deed with others. I want your Kingdom done on earth through me. Forgive my immaturity; for not preparing my heart. I want my heart as your heart; focused on relationships in your Spirit. Thank you, your guiding and teaching Spirit is my comfort. Amen.

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I can only remember how I felt when it happened to me.

And it sucked.

I’m not going to tell you to feel better because it’s not time for “better” -yet.

Because sometimes it’s not OK.

Perhaps such a statement elicits a sigh of relief, a ping of anxiety, or maybe you’re totally appalled.

Either way: Stay with it. Root yourself there.

Here’s the thing…

Despite the universality of loss + pain, we know very little about recovery from it and, oddly, the acceptance of it. Navigating through soul-aching emotional remorse is a misunderstood process that most of us have very little idea how to respond to.

Correction.We do have a universal response to pain. And it sounds like this:

“Don’t feel bad.”

“You just need to keep busy.”

“Time heals all wounds.”

“Be strong.”

“Pull yourself up by the bootstraps.”

Screw that. I’m here to tell you: Feel bad.

Seriously, no rush. Take a minute right where you are.

Truth: most of the condolences you hear after you’ve been struck by life are rational + intellectual but emotionally void. How often have you heard “don’t feel bad,”when the relationship ended, the doctor had negative news, the lay off finally happened or the car broke down- again?

“Don’t feel bad” is dismissive. It is unintentional but it diminishes your own, your lover’s, friend’s, family’s appropriate, valid emotions.

Being infused with sadness is all about a broken heart, not a broken mind.

And you can’t cure a broken heart with your head. It’s simply the wrong tool.

This one you’ll have to feel your way through.

Loss monumentally shifts everything in your life.

Enough so that you + others will want to apply “smarts” to push through those cataclysmic feelings in a jiffy.

BUT….

Over-intellectualizing your pain (or anyone else’s for that matter) is a type of avoidance. The loss is too unnerving, too uncomfortable – so you bury it under a flurry of distractions + quick dismissals. Over time this unresolved pain is cumulativeand will resurface with the sole task of dismantling you.

Don’t fall prey to the ol’ adage “time heals all wounds.”

It’s what you do with that time that helps you heal. Repair.

Choose a new approach. Choose completion rather than avoidance.

Here’s the doosy of ‘em all. When you give yourself and others permission to be upset, you pave the path to steadfast “completion.” You recognize you have the right to feel upset from time to time no matter how loved ones react.

You understand the pain of the loss/change will sting LESS in the long-run

when you embrace it’s “ok-ness.” in the short-run.

And if your particular loss this time around is the loss of a relationship?

Maybe the relationship was mostly rewarding.

Maybe you spent a portion of it mascara streaked + curled up in a ball crying.

Or perhaps it was problematic from the get-go.

Regardless, when it ends, you are left reaching out for someone who used to be there OR who has never been there + still isn’t.

It can feel shitty.

Ahh-hem…

Sometimes it’s not F #$@’ing OK. And that is OK!

So feel lousy + as you begin to recover, you can start sorting through what worked and what didn’t in the relationship. But what if weeks go by, then months, and you still feel as if you’re wandering around in a thick grey fog? Have you stumbled into the black hole of grief never to return?

Give it about six to nine months. It often takes that long after a serious relationship for you to pick up the pieces and start rebuilding your sense of self.

Whether it be a romantic relationship, family, friends, health, finances – there are very few vistas that grief will not infest. When it does:

Steal the courage to allow the pain to surface.

Be there with it.

Befriend it.

Then commit to letting it go.

Why during the holidays?

You may have heard about a somewhat recent study providing evidence that there is a huge spike in break-ups during the holidays. Why is that? Well there are a variety of possible reasons.

Festive gatherings are a staple of the holiday season. Some women have a fear of bringing their partner around family, friends, and co-workers. The option that they choose is to break-up instead of face that situation.

Financial reasons? Yes it’s true. Some women break-up before a holiday in order to avoid having to spend money on a gift and/or a trip to see a significant other.

Fear of sharing the holidays and moving into deeper waters. Some women are not ready to take a stand on moving forward with the relationship so instead they choose to jump ship. Holidays with a partner inherently infer a statement of furthered commitment. It can be awkward if a girl is not “there” yet and she is asked to make that symbolic statement. If in fact her feelings are decreasing, then the urge to break-up may be intensified.

Holidays cause reflection. Women re-asses themselves, their situation in life, their finances, their goals, and their partners. Depending on her conclusions and influences, she may decide on a break-up.

Some women just want to relieve the stress of a pending break-up before the holiday so she can get it over with and not have it hanging it over her head.

Holidays are linked to stress. Every relationship has problems, and the additional stress of the holidays may be that straw that breaks the camel’s back and causes a break-up.

Related to the reason above, the holidays commonly create conflicting demands between work, school, and families that may serve to set the stage for a break-up.

One HUGE reason stems from unrealistic expectations by women. There is nothing that you can do to meet the expectations created by the fictitious “happily ever after” of Christmas & New Year or the B.S. romanticism of Valentines Day. So inevitably when life is not like the movies, the woman blames you and it is all your fault. This ridiculous perspective can cause a girl to overreact and break-up with her boyfriend.

Tips to survive a holiday break-up

So clearly there are a whole bunch of reasons for holiday break-ups. To counter the distress of this situation, there are a number of things to keep in mind. Understanding these perspectives and employing these strategies can save you a whole lot of grief.

With all of the drama and stress that the holidays bring, there is an upside. There is a whole lot to do to keep you busy. It is hard to not run into a holiday party… even a one sponsored by your employer or school. It doesn’t matter if people are going to ask about your ex-girlfriend when you get there, at least there are other immediate environmental distractions that can keep your mind off of that topic (we will discuss tricks for this scenario below). And let’s be honest. It ain’t like you won’t be thinking of her when you are home alone, so fearing talking about her is no excuse to miss the party. Take advantage of the distractions presented during the holidays.

Not enough holiday parties to crash? Then create some distractions of your own. It is easy to impose on people during the holidays. Make up reasons. Go out for drinks for the holiday. Is there a football game on that day? Catch it with friends. Invite folks over to kick it to celebrate the season. You have a lot to work with.

Earlier I acknowledged that people may ask about your ex girlfriend when you are out and about. I also advised that this is no excuse to avoid social events. I also advise that you prepare answers ahead of time so that when nosey people ask questions, you will know just what to say. Rehearse the explanations out loud beforehand into the mirror and in the car while driving on the way there. Then consciously do not think about your ex-girlfriend and enjoy the event. When asked you can say a number of things: “Actually things did not work out with NAME, so I am starting the new year on the prowl… as 2012′s most eligible bachelor.” Or simply say, “oh, me and NAME have gone separate ways.” Or maybe, “Oh, that ran its course. I’m single again. Got any hot friends?” whatever suits you. What you do not want to do is look like a sad puppy and get into a conversation about it. If pressed, you can say “c’mon, this ain’t the time and place for that conversation. Instead why not explain why Jeff is wearing your mother’s sweater… [point out environmental observation conversation starter].”

What if an ex-girlfriend breaks up with you on the actual holiday? Yes, that friggin sucks. You may be concerned that the mental scar will ruin the holiday from here on out for the rest of your life. That is not true. You had holidays before her. You will have many more after her. Your untainted holiday memories will bury this one horrible experience. Next year you should reflect on the positive holiday experiences. This year you should get busy creating new memories as described above.

Maybe you are the type of guy who believes that the best way to get over a girl is to get on top of a new ones. If that is the case, then the holiday break-up statistic has a flipside with a silver lining. If there are more break-ups during the holidays, then that means that there are more new fish in the sea who may relate to where you are coming from. Thus more new prospects for you if you want to hurry up and get back into the game. Just don’t get caught up with a girl who is a head case about her own break up. You have enough going on. You do not need her baggage as well.

Money is not the cure to all problems. And I strongly disagree with going into debt to deal with stress. But I do understand the value of retail therapy when used sparingly and reasonably. Relationships during the holidays are expensive. Now you do not have that financial burden, so go buy yourself a gift with the money you are saving by not being in a relationship. Do not blow the money but instead get something that you have been wanting for a while. Here is your excuse. The money was going to be spent on a gift anyways. Now the recipient just happens to be someone more deserving. You.

Different people work in different ways so I will mention the following method also. Having someone break up with you before the holidays #%^ing sucks. It is rather easy to use that fact to fuel anger to overcome the hurt (if that is the strategy you choose). What type of wench breaks up with a guy during a holiday? You are better off being rid of that scum. NOTE: Just remember it is not all women. It is this woman. Also remember to tread lightly when diving into negativity. It is an available tool when the hurt is just too much and you need anything… anything to get you through. However, sustained anger is not the solution. It is just a Band-Aid. And an occasionally helpful one at that. The final caveat is do NOT act in anger if you use this technique. The purpose is to shield you from pain, not cause pain onto anyone else.

Sometimes some good old fashioned family support is just what the doctor ordered. Many men spend time with their families during the holidays. It can be a brother, parents, cousins, whatever. Family bonds can do wonders to fill the void after a break-up.

Next is a coping tactic that is more popular than one might initially expect. Even though it may seem that you do not have anything left in you, you can still give. And it may feel good. There are many worthy causes out there that could use your help. Volunteer at a homeless shelter, a non-profit that helps kids, Habitat for Humanity, veterans association, assist the elderly, you name it. Giving to those in need is rewarding in and of itself and can also help to push the pain of a break-up to the background a little bit.

When it comes down to it, a break-up during the holidays is just a breed of break-up. Some unique characteristics may be present, but basically the standard rules apply. The above philosophies and strategies are effective whether it is the holiday season or not. But to be effective they must be employed. The sooner a man begins taking action, the sooner he recovers. The time to start is now.

Wear clothes that fit: It may seem like a trend to wear pants so low that your underwear is showing, but I don’t know a single woman who actually finds this attractive. Buy a belt, pull up your pants, and look like a grown up. If you ask women for their opinion, I guarantee that 99% of them will say that they prefer pants on men that fit properly. On the flip side, women also find tight fitting pants very unattractive on men. Save the tight clothes for her. So guys, when you are shopping for pants or jeans, just go with your actual size.

Suits are not overrated: If you ask a girl out on a date, you better believe that she will spend a good amount of time getting ready. So imagine her disappointment when you show up wearing ratty jeans and a t-shirt. Ok, this doesn’t mean that you have to wear a suit and tie if you’re going out to dinner (unless it’s that kind of place), but a white button down shirt and a black jacket are completely appropriate for a night out. You may feel uncomfortable at first, especially if this isn’t the type of thing you normally wear. But believe me fellas, your date will appreciate it, and you’ll definitely score some points. And don’t think you have to spend a lot on a good suit or black jacket. You can get good suits and jackets at discount stores like Marshall’s, TJMaxx, or Macy’s.

Don’t be afraid of a few accessories: Women aren’t the only ones who can accessorize. Men should definitely limit the accessories they wear, but a few here and there can definitely put some style into your look. Sunglasses, for example, are a fashion must-have for men. They give you that mysterious, non-chalant look that women go crazy over. But choose your sunglasses wisely, as the wrong pair can actually have the opposite affect. The styles of sunglasses that women like most on men are Aviator shades and rectangle frames. Like suits, you don’t have to spend a lot to get good quality sunglasses. Wholesale prices are much cheaper, so you can get things like wholesale sunglasses for a lot less than you would find in the stores.

The way to strengthen or develop a relationship is to identify what is already working – or at least the possibilities and potential – as well as an awareness of what isn’t. We can then maximize the positive aspects of the relationship while working together to develop and practice more adaptive alternatives to what’s broken.

Exactly how to do this is beyond the scope of this article – but a good place to start is looking at how you relate to others:

Having this awareness helps foster successful relationships because it gives you the opportunity to identify what you do well, as well as identify new behaviors to try on. It also fosters insight into which types of personalities, environments, and situations you prefer.

Knowing this allows you to make some conscious decisions and plan accordingly. It allows you to decide with whom and where you can easily develop relationships, and with whom and where you choose to step out of your comfort zone (or not). You can decide which relationships will come more naturally and easily; and which will take more time, energy, and skill.

Begin by looking at the relationships you’ve had in the past. Start with your childhood and move forward to the present day. Here are some example questions to ask yourself:

Who was your best friend? Why?

Who did you get along with best in your family? Why?

Who were your favourite teachers? Bosses?

What drew you to various romantic partners or adult friendships? What sustained them?

Who do you feel most comfortable around currently?

Who makes you challenge yourself to be a better person? How?

Think of all the people in your life, past and present, that you connected with on the deepest levels. What were the common features of these relationships? Of these people? Of the situation you were in together?

What was your contribution?

Now think about who you’ve had the most difficult times with. What made it difficult? What part did you play in this?

Think about what your answers to these questions mean: after you’ve decided what you want from the relationships in your life – and which relationships you want to work on – think about what it is that you’re bringing to the table.

Think about how you typically relate to others in a variety of circumstances; and decide which traits and habits to build upon, which to change, and which to let go of completely.

Chris Hammer, Ph.D. is a certified professional coach and licensed psychologist. He offers leadership and life coaching services, as well as various self-development tools for people who are passionate about reaching higher levels of success and becoming the best they can be

More individuals discover online dating sites more dependable and fun instead of meeting friends of friends, because in this manner they have a chance to talk and get to know each other before eventually seeing one another.

Since we are talking about how online dating operates and what are the benefits you can get from this, I have listed down some do’s and don’ts of online dating.

Tip #1

Do not share your personal or financial details to anyone you have never seen or met before – individuals you don’t know or simply just anyone who’s not familiar.

Do not send money to someone you just met online, especially wire transfers. Always keep in mind that by using wire transfer the sender doesn’t have protection against loss or scammers. In addition, with wire transfer overseas, it is really impossible to reverse the transaction or trace the money after sending.

Do not give your credit card details, or any bank information. I guess that’s a no brainer right?

Tip #2

Here are certain things that you may want to pay attention to when interacting with different people online. You may be dealing with a scammer if you are asked for the following details

1. He or she will ask you to talk or chat outside email or any messaging service.

2. He or she suddenly talks about destiny or fate.

3. He or she might state that he/she was recently widowed or left by his or her partner.

4. He or she might demand your address and tell you that he or she might send out some flowers or gifts.

5. He or she may declare that she or he is living in the US but currently travelling, living or working abroad.

6. Lastly, he or she requests for money.

If in case you may come across these strange things, you might want to reject that person and never talk to him or her.

Tip #3

Always bear in mind what your real intentions are when making an account on these online dating sites. You have to always remember that these sites have their pros and cons and it is up to you on how you’ll manage yourself given these situations. Finding someone whom you want to share your whole life with shouldn’t be expensive. That someone should value, respect and love you for what you are, because that is the most important part of being in love.

Online dating sites should assist you when finding someone you want to share your lifetime with. Let it be your tool to a happy marriage or a happy relationship. Not a tool to having financial problems because you gave your account details to someone you don’t know and someone who will abuse you.

We all wander, just in different directions, we all hope, just for different things and we all have that force of inspiration burning deep inside a soul that knows exactly what it wants, the key is unlocking that and going after it and although that thing may vary throughout large masses of the population there is one thing that keeps itself the same in that want, in that soul felt burn. The want for love and its dedicated ways. Love in my opinion is one of the greatest things and without it, well.. There aren’t any words to put to that. What it keeps locked inside of it for those lucky beings that stumble across it, find it or have it find them during their walk across life is purely remarkable and staggering with the sensationalism it brings floating towards us with it.

How does a person go about finding this in a world full of numerous amounts of people, regular dating? For the lucky ones it finds them, swoops in when they need it the most or when they least expect it and for others there are ways they can go about finding this. Online Dating websites for one present extreme connections to anyone and everyone, whether their location be right down the road from you to a whole new state, an entirely new country across a wide a chaotic ocean. It breaks down barriers and for that Dating Sites hold this quality of having no walls to block you off from where you wish to go.

Online Dating has grown as the internet has and only continues to develop each and every day with new features, new websites and whole new eras of dating in general. Online Dating can light the way, it can turn a worried heart into a filled to the brim cup of happiness and elation as somebody’s other half searches for them and they happen to meet at the right place at the right time on a website they found while wondering “Should I try this?” It’s mysterious in the ways that it works yet captivating and exciting for users at the same time. Partners are united everyday all over the world by these specific sites along with the internet itself and it truly a miraculous source for anyone who knows exactly how to use it right. So when starting with online dating where do you go? We suggest Love Lincs with it’s vibrant design and social features such as chat, forums, games, gifts and many other things it allows endless possibilities for the user. Begin your search today.

Back to the ‘old school’

There are many women that simply prefer a classier, sharper and more refined outlook on life. Mature men aren’t so aloof and laid back with women. They treat women like ladies, with respect and courtesy. They behave far more gentlemanly than younger men. They appreciate women more, pay more attention and aren’t shy of complimenting girls. Young guys need to COMPLIMENT. Don’t forget to compliment! Some guys don’t seem to place a high enough value on this. Some guys don’t seem to realise how effective this is. How much women appreciate this. Does it surprise you when a young hot girl is seeing a man twice her age when younger guys can’t bring themselves to pay a sincere compliment?

Older men are sexier

Physical attractiveness is clearly a subjective matter. While we can generalise and claim that there is something appealing about everyone, one thing is for certain – some girls prefer grey hairs and a few wrinkles very sexy!

Older men know what they want

Older men are more decisive and self assured. When it comes to deciding where to go on a date, they have a clear idea and take control. They know what type of women they want and women find that very alluring. Older men don’t procrastinate. They don’t waste time. They make quick decisions and go with it. This makes for a very attractive alternative to indecisive young guys who lack foresight and planning. Guys that don’t show any real zest or can’t be bothered lose out to older guys.

Experience

Having lived a little works in the older guys favour. Maturity, personal growth, balance and knowledge are all qualities girls admire. A man’s life experience tends to go hand in hand with his confidence and sense of personal assurance.

How can an older man increase his chances with a younger girl?

If an older man is seeing a younger girl then it would be advisable to try and ensure you didn’t “over settle” into your slippers, gown and cup of tea every evening. Staying fit, active, up-to-date and sociable will certainly work in your favour.

The worst thing an older man can do

We’ll be perfectly frank. If you’re an older man trying to act like a twenty one year old it is desperately embarrassing. Please stop. Everyone knows you’re not twenty one. If young hot girls want a twenty one year old they can have one and it’s not you. They could just as easily go out with your son! Women like men to be honest with who they are and the last thing they want to see is a middle aged man running around nightclubs drunk and pretending to be half his age. Or dresses like a gangster rapper, rock legend or even worse supplements his everyday vocabulary with modern day slang. As one of our friends puts it, “you can smell the desperation from a mile away”.

Success stories abound, and married couples everywhere are singing the praises of the dating services where they first met online. Instead of trusting to luck to ensure that someone you might like will happen to go out on the same night and to the same place where you’ll be looking to meet another single, use an online service specifically designed to cater to your busy schedule, your lifestyle, and your needs as a dating single.

Once you join the service, you can search for other singles in your geographic area within the parameters of your choosing, or if you’re open to meeting someone elsewhere, you can broaden the search and cast a wider net for your soul mate or future partner in a wider geographic area. You can join in online chat forums within the dating site and see what other people seem to connect with you. You can join interest groups within the site and meet others who share your priorities and hobbies. Create a profile that helps another user to get to know you better when they check you out, and go browsing among other people’s profiles to see who catches your eye. You can even focus a search with any number of parameters to find the profiles of people who might interest you, engage with them in chat rooms or private messaging within the site, or even participate with them in gaming options on the site.

The dating service itself goes far beyond a cut-and-dried swapping of profile information; it also provides a social environment in which you can safely get to know other people through chatting, group interactions, game-playing, sponsored events, and other social settings which let you relax and enjoy the company of the other people present, rather than feeling like you’re picking up someone out of a line-up to give them a blind trial.

When you choose to see someone socially in person after meeting them on the dating service, you will already have had some opportunities to get to know them casually in a friendly environment, which eliminates some of that “first date” awkwardness-you’ll essentially be going out with someone you’ve already met. If you’re dating single, do it smart with an online service.

It just makes sense to put such a smart service to work for you, rather than taking your chances with the three-line personal ads in the local paper, for example. A singles dating service is exactly tailored to your needs, offering social opportunities within the community so you can “test the waters” with a likely individual and actually get to know them even before you have a chance to meet face to face.

The dating site even offers a full tool box of resources for you to create an eye-catching personal profile, allowing you to view it as other people will see it, to edit and update the profile at any time, and even a full profile designer tool which is easy to use even for those who aren’t particularly “tech savvy” in their own right. In short, the site gives you everything you need to present yourself well, and to catch the eye and the attention of someone who might be of interest, in turn, to you. Once your profile is created, you let it go live within the site, and other people can find it when they search within your geographical region, search for matching interests or hobbies, or just browse through available profiles. An interested person can then contact you by private chat, or set an online “date” within one of the sites many social venues. Hook up in a chat room to have a conversation, or join someone with similar music interests in the “music” or “videos” areas of the site. In addition to that person’s detailed profile; you’ll have the opportunity of social interactions to determine that the profile itself isn’t a misrepresentation of the person behind it. All that from the security and safety of the supported online community, before you venture out to meet in person. Don’t trust your luck to public personals when your profile in the online dating site will work so much better for you!